Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Plus Size Guide to Wearing Booties

Hello ladies!
I'm assuming you're a lady if you're reading this but if not, welcome gentlemen.

First of all, let me say that I in no way consider myself a fashion blogger. Shoot, I don't even consider myself a blogger period. But I do take a little, teeny tiny bit of pride in thinking that over the last 24 years I've learned what looks best for my body type, which is plus size. I know that for plus size women it is a daily struggle to decide whether to dress trendy and wear what's "in", or to wear "what flatters us" and risk looking like we shopped at The Gap....ten years ago. But who says we have to choose?? A coworker recently told me that booties were only for skinny girls, and while I think skinny girls wear them very well, I think that there are certain ways we can style them to look good for our body shapes. Who says we can't get in on the fun, too?

Before I talk about the 3 looks I've put together, I want to talk about the number one rule to wearing booties, or really anything if you want to make sure you're flattering your body type: Silhouette. When trying on outfits, I always try to ask myself "what area of my body is this outfit bringing attention to?". If it's bringing attention to a body part I'm not particularly comfortable with, I either try to style the item a different way, or I pass on it, because it's not giving me a flattering silhouette. Booties are so tricky because many of them stop either at the ankle or above, and when you create lines at a thicker part of your body, which for many of us is the calf, it can make that part of your body look even larger. So the trick is to create a silhouette that takes the attention away from the part of your body that you don't like.

Another thing before we jump in. I realize none of these outfits are exactly groundbreaking. I like simple and classic. I've just taken outfits that I would wear or that I think would flatter any body shape (I would wear all of these, tbh). This post is mostly for the women who are unsure if they can be a part of the bootie party, too. There are probably so many of you who have already learned how to style these for yourself and I'd love to hear your suggestions! 
This first look is probably the most un-fussy, if that's a word. We know that utility jackets are always in for fall/winter and they look especially cute when paired with a bootie. What I think is unsettling for many plus size girls are the skinny jeans turned up at the hem. But this look is all about this particular jacket.  It's hitting at the thigh and takes in slightly at the waist. This creates the illusion of a longer torso and an hourglass figure, leaving us with a flattering silhouette. If the jacket was shorter and stopped right at the hips, it would create a line right through the middle, which is often one of the widest points on our body. The jacket, paired with booties that have a nice size heel on them and dark jeans, are going to make us look taller and slimmer. When I wear a slouchy jacket or a seemingly relaxed outfit, I like to pair it with a structured bag to balance it out. As for jewelry, I'm a hoops girl, but just about any earrings with this look will do. And as usual, I love a good bracelet stack. I think that smaller bracelets paired together are sometimes a little more flattering than one large cuff.



This second look is something I'd wear to a holiday party or Christmas service at church. The key to this one is that the tights are the same color as the booties. This is going to make your legs look like they are miiiiles long. The swing dress can hide your tummy if that's a problem area for you and the sleeves are long enough to cover your arms. Sometimes swing dresses can seem unflattering, but if it's the right length (just above the knee) and paired with shoes with a little lift, you'll look great. I'm loving the plaids this year so I'd pair this with a plaid wrap to keep warm and some jewel toned accessories. I actually have the bag pictured and it doubles as a cross-body or you can use the handles on top.

 
This third look is surprisingly my favorite I think. This is something I'd wear any day. We all know there's nothing more flattering than a good pair of flare or boot cut jeans that fit just right and lift that booty. While the sweater is crew neck, which can be intimidating to busty girls, it flares a little at the bottom, almost like a relaxed empire waist fit, and I think that would flatter anyone. These leather booties just look so classic to me. Great height and would give your legs and torso a gorgeous silhouette (there's that word again). If you want to keep it classy, you can always go with pearl accessories, or if you want to make it a little modern you can do rose gold. I didn't include a bag with this one because I truly think just about anything would work.
 
I hear many women say they'd like to wear booties but they can't walk in heels. Now that the chunky heel is in, these or a pair of wedge booties will be just fine. The most comfortable pair of shoes I have are a pair of booties with a nice chunky heel I got from H&M a year ago. They give me just enough height to make my legs look longer, and they're very easy to walk in.
 
I hope any of you reading have gotten at least a few good tips from these outfits and if not, maybe just the courage to try out that pair of booties you've been too scared to wear. No matter what body shape, big or small, just remember that you're all so beautiful, inside and out.
 
Girl power!

Monday, November 14, 2016

Adjustments

Hey everyone, it's me, the perma-slacker. Obviously it's been a while but I wanted give a little update. Last you heard from me we were gearing up for a major change. Since then, we've moved to Richlands, which is just outside of Jacksonville. Tanner has just started a job as a lineman for the electric company and I was fortunate enough to keep my job with the company that I love. God has really, really blessed us. For a while it was hard to believe that we were going to find jobs and a house, or that the move would even be possible. I was frustrated and just tired of thinking about it. But when God shows off, he really shows off. Within 2 hours of each other I found out we were approved for a house we applied for and I was going to keep my job. 4 weeks later we're settling in and Tanner is starting his new job.

I feel selfish for even saying this, but the move hasn't been easy. I am a very routine person with some very hard habits and if I've learned anything from this transition it's that I don't deal well with change. I like to think that I can adapt to anything, but now I realize that may only apply in certain areas of my life. We've been in Richlands for a little over a month, but up until about 2 weeks ago I was having a really hard time adjusting to the changes. Working from home has been a larger adjustment than I thought it would be. I didn't realize how many distractions there were in an office, but I also didn't realize how quiet it would be at home. Overall, I feel like I'm way more productive and now that I've gotten into a routine, I love it. Since I'm home and Tanner is working elsewhere, I'm able to plan a lot better for meals and actually cook, which if you know me at all, you know that's something I don't do.

A lot of people from home have been asking how the church is going and I'm so proud to say it's going great. I love this group so much and I'm so excited for what is to come in the future. Our official launch is in March, but right now we're doing a small group on Sunday nights, as well as hosting other events throughout the community. Our preacher likes to say that we won't be a "come and see" church, but a "come and do" church and I am here-for-it! For the month of November our staff organized a coat drive with 3 drop off locations in Jacksonville, as well as hosting a clean up day at a local non-profit called CHEW. We're also hosting a set of Q & A nights at the coolest coffee shop called The Milk Road. These nights allow anyone to come in, have refreshments on us and ask  anything they'd like to know about Restore and what we stand for. Our small group has grown large enough that we now have to split into 2 small groups. God is truly, truly working in Jacksonville and I wouldn't want to be anywhere else right now.

Last night our bible study was focused on the word inclusion. In a time of such division in our country, on social media, and the news, it was so refreshing to be reminded that no matter your race, your gender, your orientation or what political party you belong to, you are loved and welcomed by God. I firmly believe it is the church's responsibility to bridge the gaps of discrimination and be as loving and Christ-like as possible.
 
 
 
"So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise."
                                                                                           Galatians 3:26-29

Friday, July 8, 2016

We've Got News!

 
 We are so excited to share with everyone that after a lot of talking and a lot of praying, we're headed to Jacksonville, NC.  
 


Why Jacksonville?
We're teaming up with some awesome people to plant a church. Restore Church will open it's doors March 2017, and while that seems like a long time from now, our team has a lot to do. Jacksonville is about an hour and 30 minutes from where we currently live.

What is Restore Church?
Restore Church is a church plant that is currently being supported by the Eastern North Carolina Christian Men's Fellowship. When Tanner and I first heard about the need for a church in Jacksonville, we both agreed it was something we'd love to be apart of. Little did we know that about 2 months later we'd be officially joining the team. You can check out Restore's website or ENCCMF's website to learn more.

When Do You Leave?
Even though our first Sunday isn't until March of 2017, our plans are to move in the fall, most likely around mid-September. If anyone knows of any good neighborhoods with rental properties, feel free to get in touch with us.

Are You Crazy?
We just might be! We realize it seems like a crazy idea to some, but we're sure that this is where God is leading us. While it would be much easier to stay where we are and continue to have a "good life", we believe that God doesn't call us to just have a good life. He calls us to have great lives, which can mean to take risks, step outside of our comfort zones and do things we normally wouldn't do, all to tell others about Him. We may be crazy to go, but with how much grace and love God has given us and continues to give us, we would definitely be crazy not to. This world needs love more than ever and we want to spread it all over!

What Do You Need?
Lots of prayer and support! While we are so excited for this adventure, we'd (mostly me) be lying if we said we weren't a little nervous. Because we've had such great support from family and friends this far, we know you guys will stick with us no matter what.
 
 
Lastly, we just want to say thank you. To the people we've told so far, thank you for the support. Thank you for being optimistic, for being proud of us and for promising to be at Restore on our opening Sunday. To our parents, thank you for making us feel like we can do anything we set our minds to. To our Rosemary church family, thank you for summer camp, tough love, lifelong memories and a place to always call home.


Monday, June 27, 2016

Lemon Ice Cream & a New Kitty

Well, well, well look who's back again! MONDAY. While it may be the first day of a new work week, I'm still reminiscing about what a great weekend we had. Here's a recap:

 

Friday night we met Tanner's family at Cracker Barrel for dinner. So good to see them, especially our sweet little nephew, Carter. He'll be ONE this Saturday!  
 
 
Saturday afternoon we went to see one of my best friends' singing debut at Howell's Mercantile in Belhaven. There was good food, great music and rocking chairs. We couldn't have asked for a better summer afternoon.
 
 
The rest of the weekend was spent playing with our newest addition, Palmer. We got him about a week ago and he is so playful. Jaz has even decided that she likes him. I'm so glad they are playing together. Tanner is just glad to have another male in the house.
 
What did your weekend consist of?

Sunday, June 19, 2016

Enemies of Inner Peace


It's been a while since I've heard a message that I felt was written directly towards me so I guess I was overdue for a hard-hitter. I want to share my notes from a sermon I heard tonight by Ray West with you all.

The title was "Enemies of Inner Peace" and Ray opened with a verse from Colossians.
And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.                          Colossians 3:15 NKJ

There are a lot of people, including Christians, who struggle with finding peace. With the stresses of the world upon us, it's hard to feel optimistic about much of anything. It seems like there is so much to worry about (financial struggles, elderly parents, pleasing our boss, marriage issues, raising children, spiritual wellness) that it can be frustrating and seem down right impossible to feel stress-free and peaceful. Not to mention that watching the news every morning can make you feel like the earth is doomed. Ray gave us 5 trouble areas that can keep us from finding that peace that we all hope for.

Materialism
So at this point in the sermon I'm thinking "Ok, this is going to be the one that applies to me", but little did I know, they would all apply to me. Materialism is an enemy of peace because the more we have, the more we want. In Ecclesiastes we're told:
He who loves silver will not be satisfied with silver, Nor he who loves abundance with increase. This is also vanity.                             Ecclesiastes 5:10 NKJ

The Bible talks a lot about materialism and possessions. In fact, it's so important that there are not one, but two commandments about it: Thou shall not steal and Thou shall not covet. Both commandments are for our own good. We should love God and have so much faith in Him, that we are completely content with what we have. Not to mention, no matter what we acquire here won't go with us once we die. We can't take our car, our boat, our house, our wardrobe, our diamonds, or anything we possess.
"..for one's life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses."  Luke 12:15 NKJ

I struggle with this because while I don't necessarily have to have a new car or the biggest house, any time we get an invitation in the mail to a wedding or event, my immediate thought is that I have to go out and buy a new outfit. Clothes, shoes, jewelry and makeup are my weakness. I have no problem spending $28 on mascara or justifying a new dress when I could really use that money for something else. If I wasn't so worried about how I look or how other people see or think about me, I could be happy with who I am no matter what I'm wearing, thus resulting in peace inside and out. Our lives aren't going to be measured by what we have, but who we are. Money doesn't equal happiness, no matter what society tells us.

Dualism
This one goes hand in hand with materialism. Ray referenced Matthew for this one.
No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.         Matthew 6:24 NKJ 

Often times, we find ourselves being pulled in so many different directions. The need to be accepted, liked and loved can make us do things that if we were truly committed to God, we wouldn't normally do. For me, my dualism is that while I love God, I'm also a people pleaser and often take on more than I can handle. This goes back to the need to be accepted and being worried about what people think of me. I have a big problem saying "yes" to things when I know I can't do it all or that I'll be stretched too thin. If I wasn't so worried about upsetting someone or letting someone down, I could do a few things really well, instead of doing so many things and just being average at them or not giving them the time and attention they deserve. If I practiced saying no more, I would have more time to spend with God doing things I know he wants me to, leaving me less stressed and having a little more peace.

Infantilism/Childish
I wasn't quite sure what Ray meant at first about this one until he said this:
Infantilism is frustrated adult people stamping their feet at the showcase of life.
Now I get it. The older I get the more I am surprised at how immature adults really are. At the workplace, in the home, at church. It amazes me that adults, especially ones who are supposedly Christians can argue and hold grudges the way that we do. Often times, the issue that is being argued over is truly not that big of a deal, but the pride gets in our way and we just can't bare to let someone else have the last word.

In his letter to the church of Corinth, Paul writes that he couldn't discuss deep spiritual lessons and truths with them because they were still spiritually immature.
... For where there are envy, strife, and divisions among you, are you not carnal and behaving like mere men?                                    Luke 3:3 NKJ

The best way I can think to apply this to my life is within the church. There have been several times where a church member has made a comment to me or I've heard from someone else that there was a complaint about the sound or visuals during the service and I am so quick to become defensive and write that person off. So much so, that I replay their comment in my head over and over again, and create the best comeback  that I can, and I promise myself that the next time I see that person, I'm gonna let them have it. Y'all, that is so childish. And petty. And so not Christ-like. If we could see past our preferences, opinions and just plain ugliness, we could really get some things accomplished.

Narcissism
Narcissism is defined as excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one's physical appearance. In the age of Instagram and selfie-sticks, it's so easy to be wrapped up with our appearance. Why does it feel so good when we get so many likes on a Facebook post? Society and culture tell us that we are defined by how others see us. We've become so preoccupied with our outside appearance and status, that we'll quickly put our values and morals to the side for another retweet or like on Insta. And once we have those likes and that approval, we level-up and are better than the people we left behind. We are so hungry for that attention and reaffirmation that we're good enough or pretty enough, that we have no problem ranking others as lower or higher than we are. Romans 12:3 warns us about measuring ourselves against others.
For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith.                                    Romans 12:3 NKJ

The only thing we should measure ourselves against is God, and we will always fall short. But because of his grace that we have been given ,we can be at peace knowing that we are exactly who God made us to be, no matter how many followers or friends we have.

Perfectionism
Ray called this the worst one of all. Perfectionism is emotionally unhealthy and spiritually damaging. Not only does the need to be perfect or do all things perfectly cause us major stress and anxiety, but it says that we don't need God or His forgiveness. We have to understand that we are not perfect and never will be, which is why Jesus saved us from our sins. We are who God made us, flaws and all, for a reason. All of our flaws and imperfections make up the most unique, perfect recipe for you, and if you change the ingredients, you're no longer the person that God intended for you to be.
If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.                  1 John 1:8 NKJ

 So as I sit here, listening to Tanner yell "AND 1!" at Game 7, watching our new kitten play in the floor, and watching our first cat watching the new kitten that she's still not so sure about, I'm thinking about how peaceful it is. Because while there are a million things I could be worried about (work tomorrow, the dreaded Monday, what I'm going to wear, the next tragedy that will strike America) I'm going to try really hard to just be at peace, with no makeup on, God as my one and only, hopefully a maturing spirituality, a big slice of humble pie and trying to let go of the anxiety that there is a large possibility I've made a spelling or grammatical error in this rambling of a post.

Thanks for reading.

Thursday, June 2, 2016

Book Review: Bare Bones

If you don't know who Bobby Bones is, well, you should. Bobby Estell is the brains behind The Bobby Bones Show, a great morning radio talk show based out of Nashville. His show started being broadcast in our area maybe a year or so ago, and Tanner has really enjoyed. He talked about it so much that now I listen to it, and when we get home from work in the evenings we talk about the talk show. That's a lot of talkin'!

Bobby had been talking about his book on air for a while, and I knew that Tanner would love to read it. Bare Bones was released May 17th and our copy arrived May 19th. Tanner finished it last Friday night so I took it with us to the river for Memorial Day weekend. I started it Saturday afternoon and finished it on Sunday afternoon. It's a very easy read!






Overall, the book was great. Bobby's stories, accompanied with his usual self-deprecating humor, were funny and fun to read. I also feel like there was some good "dirt" in the book, also (i.e. billboards, Chris Young, the nosebleed). I couldn't have picked a better title for the book, because I really felt like Bobby was baring it all. His childhood stories broke my heart but were also very easy to relate to. After reading the book, I just wanted (and still do) to give him the biggest bear hug and say "You are so worth it!". Because of Bobby's past experiences, it almost seems like it would be impossible for him to believe that anyone would or could genuinely like him. He's been slighted so many times in his past that he writes about always feeling like a mistake or that he was in the way (his mother had him at 15, he writes about feeling like he ruined her life). Bobby is so unique, honest and likeable that after listening to him on the radio and reading his book, I really feel like he would be one of my friends.

 Bare Bones kept me so interested and entertained that I was actually sad to see that I was on the last chapter. I'd definitely recommend this book to any of my friends and I'm really hoping for another!!

Saturday, March 5, 2016

A Lonely Blog and a Sick Husband

How many times does one have to fail at something before they give up? By now, I have surely failed at a consistent blog, but, you know what? I'm not ready to give up. My motivation is like a roller coaster - one week I'm super pumped and can crank out blog posts and ideas one after another - the next week, I can't come up with a sentence much less a post. I guess maybe I don't think my day to day is entertaining enough to be put down in words but who am I trying to impress anyway?

Since I haven't posted in 4 months, I won't even try to cover what happened during them. Let's just start with this week, shall we?

Tanner is pretty prone to sinus infections, so when he started sniffling and coughing last week we didn't think much of it. Tuesday he came home and said he felt like he'd "been hit by a truck" and went straight to bed after dinner - that's when I knew something was up. He called out of work Wednesday and when I left the house to go to work he was still asleep, which is unusual because he's an early riser. About 2pm that afternoon he called me at work and said he thought he might need to go the hospital so I left work and picked him up from home. We made it to Urgent Care about 3pm and no sooner had the nurse laid eyes on Tanner she diagnosed him with the flu. 3 pharmacies later we had Tamiflu and some cough medicine and where headed home. The doctor wrote him a note to stay out of work for 3 days, so he can go back Monday. He slept all day Thursday and started to feel better yesterday. The hardest part for him has been staying inside. The flu might be wearing off but I think he's coming down with a case of Cabin Fever.

What a way to kickoff the month of March!